Bereavement is something we will all sadly experience at some point in our lives, and it can happen at any time. Bereavement has an effect on all aspects of your life and the grieving process is a long one.

Expect bereavement to be a time of life where everything has to be realigned. It is important therefore for you to have the time and space to work through this change.

Support is available and there is flexibility in programmes to best support you. Let your Personal Tutor know as soon as you feel able to talk about it. They will be able to talk with you about options for your studies and make any necessary arrangements.

Whilst you may find it difficult to talk about it, do try to share the news with friends, especially if it is someone at home who has passed away and friends may not be aware. It is important to have people around you who know you are grieving and can give you support.

You may also want to talk with one of the chaplaincy team or a student counsellor. Your doctor will be able to put you in contact with local bereavement services.

Try to look after yourself through the grieving process – eating well, getting enough sleep, and spending time with friends.

Further information

Further information and advice

  • NHS Choices – information on coping with bereavement
  • Mourning is an important part of bereavement, and involves rituals like funerals and memorials, which add structure to what can be a chaotic and confusing time. Mourning allows us to say goodbye. Do contact the chaplaincy team if you would like to talk about how they could provide support and guidance in this.
  • You can call Cruse Bereavement Care National Helpline on 0844 477 9400. Note that you will be charged but if you are concerned about the cost of the call, Cruse will arrange for a volunteer to call you back.

Guidance for friends

If you friend has had a bereavement, do acknowledge it. They may not want to talk in depth, but it is important to give them the opportunity. Whilst it is tempting to try to provide reassurance by saying that it will get easier, often it is better not to try to offer answers and rather be a good listener and walk alongside them in the grieving process. It is important to remember that this will take a long time, and there will be ups and downs.

You can also ask your friend what would help them. Sometimes they might want to talk, and sometimes they might want to be distracted and to do something fun.