University is a big life change, and it can take time to make friends and settle in to this new environment.

Despite being surrounded by other students, it is normal to feel lonely, especially at the start of university when your new friendships are not as deep as perhaps your friendships from home or school.

Building new friendships takes time and effort – there is no shortcut to good quality friendships. Whilst it can be daunting and even exhausting to keep putting yourself out there, it is so important to make an effort to get to know other students. We do not thrive when we are lonely – we weren't designed to be alone.

If it is taking you a while to meet like-minded people, don’t worry and do persevere. It can help to think about joining clubs or societies where you will meet people with interests similar to your own. Connecting with people outside of Imperial, for example through volunteering or faith groups, can also be hugely rewarding and helpful for feeling rooted in and part of the wider community.

Consider whether your use of technology helps or hinders your friendships. Do you use your phone as an excuse not to talk to the person next to you? Do you spend more time virtually connecting with people elsewhere than you do with fellow students in London?

Relevant TED talks

By ignoring the importance of our social superpowers and by building on our social intuition, we can make ourselves smarter, happier, and more productive.
As we expect more from technology, do we expect less from each other?
We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness?

Further information and support

If you would like to talk with someone, there are many people here to support you: 

Things you can do:

  • Join a Clubs, Societies or Project, Imperial College Union supports over 350 with more than 8,000 members.
  • Volunteer, the Imperial College Union Community Connections programme enables and empowers you to take action in the local area and/or on social issues that you feel passionately about.
  • Sign up for the Mums and Dads scheme, where incoming first year students are matched with returning students based on their department and interests.
  • Take part in the Sport Imperial Impetus program, it allows you to enjoy a wide range of sports on a daily basis across campus. Free coaching helps you enjoy learning a new sport, and the focus is all about fun, making new friends and getting active.