3 Steps to Prevent Burnout – A Exploration into Happiness
Dr Jayanie Kodituwakku PhD
Five years back I was at a crossroads. I remember typing into google ‘how to be happy’. All I knew at that point was that I was pretty miserable and there was seemingly no way out. I wanted to quit my job. On the surface everything was great but something was wrong and I couldn’t quite figure it out. Life felt tough and there was no peace, I started to blame my job and the people around me. It was difficult to let on to people that I was unhappy. What reason do I have to be unhappy? I’m not homeless or hungry or in a war zone.
I went on a search and tried various things. I initially tried positive affirmations; a senior partner at my firm once told me the only way she managed to get through her promotion with positive affirmations. I tried them for a while, they did not work for me. Holidays; it usually took me a week to relax on holiday and by then I had to return home, that didn’t work! Any relaxation I did get was short lived. Diet and other stuff; I eliminated certain foods, exercised, tried yoga and meditation with short term benefits. At the time I couldn’t even sit down for too long to even meditate.
Many high achievers can be pressured at work, have severe burn out and depleted focus. We can all feel we have ‘lost our power’ at times. I’d like to tell you that you have everything you need to revert this, you really do, choose to unlock it!
The true way to be happy, have fulfilment and reach success on every level is to have an awareness of the following:
- Realise how you create your experience of life: Nothing ‘out there’ is going to bring you long term, fulfilment and happiness. By this I mean money, relationships, the dream body, your job and whatever else you think floats your boat. This may sound strange but it really is not. We can all get misguided that things happening on the outside bring us true happiness.
We are continually creating our experience through thoughts flowing through our mind. Good thoughts and not so good thoughts. The key is to let the unhelpful thoughts pass i.e. the ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘I can’t do that’ thoughts rather than believe that’s who you really are.
“Reality exists in the human mind, and nowhere else.”