2 May 2018
How to be an Exponential vs Exhausted Leader – Success Dynamics
Dr Jayanie Kodituwakku PhD
I do not have 5 ways to become a miraculous leader after reading an article, it just doesn’t work that way. It has taken me my whole working life as a molecular geneticist turned management consultant and now entrepreneur working with highly successful global leaders to discover where ‘Exponential Leadership’ comes from.
What’s the secret?
“Just be you”.
Well, you might say, I could have told you that, is that it? Let me tell you a story. Four years ago I met a great mentor of mine named Steve. He wheeled his desk chair in his office right up to me, looked me dead in the eye, a few inches from my face and said ‘Jayanie, just be you’. At the time I heard the words and still didn’t get it… these words now have a completely different meaning for me, they are not just words. They resonate through my being to create an experience where I remember who I am amongst the noise.
- You are your worst critic: some of us measure ourselves by various parameters at certain times or throughout our entire lives. We do the comparing game and compare ourselves to others. We assess the number of friends we have, our job status, our salary and how good our relationships are. It can be hard work juggling all these balls. As soon as you drop your perception of ‘who I have to be’ it can open up a wealth of possibilities for you.
- Allow yourself to make mistakes: Do you like my hand crafted smiley face? It is certainly not perfectly symmetrical, in fact it’s pretty rough and ready. I could have got a designer to draw it but I like the imperfection. As a society we can be conditioned to be ‘perfect’, what is perfect anyway
What is Success? Is it reaching a certain level in exams so we can get into university, then get that dream job and ‘have a successful career’. If you do not pass the exams, if you do not get promoted, if you don’t get the dream job you may feel a failure, then what? Yes times have changed, most often quoted college dropouts including Mark Zuckerberg are now the leading innovators. Failure is not bad, failing is the best way to learn and grow.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work” – Thomas A. Edison
Dr Jayanie Kodituwakku is a former PricewaterhouseCoopers Management Consultant, Coach and Innovator. She works with individuals, teams and organisations to reveal the unexpected keys to Insight; the ultimate leverage point for creating a thriving business and life. Connect: Jayanie.com