Ending the mentoring relationship
Mentoring potentially benefits both mentor and mentee and therefore the College.
Many mentoring relationships come to a natural ending: the original issues have been resolved, one or other of the parties has moved away or, if there was a time limit agreed at the beginning, it has been reached.
A good ending involves:
- A review of the mentoring process
- Learning and achievements
- A celebration
Depending on the specific scheme you are involved with there may also be the need to inform the scheme coordinator and provide some feedback.
There are some mentoring relationships that falter and come to unplanned ends. This can be for a variety of reasons including:
- The parties can’t communicate and connect with each other
- Logistics mean they can never seem to find a mutually suitable time and location
- The mentee is not being proactive about setting meetings, coming with an agenda and making best use of the mentor’s expertise
- The mentor is telling the mentee what to do and not listening to their issues
Wherever possible try and:
- Have a conversation and explicitly agree to finish mentoring. If you have agreed at the beginning to review it after a couple of meetings this makes it easier to raise the subject and reach a conclusion
- Extract the positives
- Review your own contribution and reflect on what you would do differently if you were to take part in mentoring again
- Provide feedback to the scheme coordinator, if you have one